Beware of Scorpions
Tolerating a difference of opinion is one thing, but understanding why there is a difference of opinion lies in questioning one’s true nature or “way of being.”
Bumping heads or disagreeing with co-workers or family members is no big surprise. After all, understanding another person’s point of view is critical to fostering positive relationships that can result in long-term reconciliation.
However, the disagreement may not be in the opinion itself, but perhaps the person disgreeing with you simply dislikes you. If you believe in love at first sight, then you should believe the opposite. It’s also possible that the person feeling this way is not aware of it.
This reminds me of a powerful fable I referenced in a 2011 editorial titled, “The Scorpion and the Frog.”
In the story, a scorpion waited on the bank of a stream deciding how to best get to the other side. Since the scorpion can’t swim, he asked a frog to carry him across on its back. The frog asks, “How do I know you won't sting me?” “Because if I sting you, I will drown,” the scorpion said.
After some thought, the frog realized the scorpion was right. The frog sets out with the scorpion on his back. Halfway across the stream, the scorpion plunges its stinger into the frog’s back.
“As paralysis began to overtake the frog and they both started to drown, the frog gasped, ‘Why?’ The scorpion replied, ‘Because it’s my nature.’ ”
Like a suicide bomber, the scorpion knew the consequence of his actions, but acted anyway. There are many life lessons here:
1. Beware of scorpions that mean well, but deny their true nature.
2. Trust your gut … it’s your first warning about people.
3. Expect one’s true nature to always show itself.
4. Don’t assume people are something they’re not.
5. Start recognizing and remembering personality traits for future reference.
Like it or not, we live and work with frogs and scorpions everyday. They can be family members, friends, co-workers or even significant others. I believe man’s true nature is comprised of sympathy, prudence, goodwill, treachery and self-destruction. One or more of these characteristics can be found in anybody.
— By Jerald Council, Founder of Councilmag.com